The Golden Bachelor, A Golden Opportunity

Say what you will about “The Golden Bachelor” being “overly scripted,” “superficial,” and “cringeworthy,” I happened to love it. I thought it was endearing, and quite moving at times. Most of all, as a dating coach in the midlife space (who’s also a late bloomer and a big believer in self-improvement), I thought “The Golden […]

Singles Sex: When To Have It, When Not To Have It

  “I’m dating, when should I have sex?” On the first date? Third date? After a month? As soon as you lose 10 pounds? When to have sex depends on what you want, where you’re at, and most importantly, what your needs and goals are. “I WANT THIS RELATIONSHIP TO LAST” If you want a […]

Maybe It’s Time To Go On A Digital Dating Diet

  “Enough!” said a friend recently who had it with online dating. She was fed-up, burned out, and ready to breakup. It’s too much work, with little return, she complained. In protest, she was going to delete all her dating apps and join a nunnery. She’s no nun, but she does have a point. Digital dating IS a lot of work. […]

Dear Ladies of Online Dating, This Letter Is For You

A few months ago, a college friend of mine who’s an avid online dater, received a note in her dating site inbox. It’s a love letter of sorts, in that the guy who wrote it was genuinely interested in her. But as you’ll see, the love didn’t last long. It was over before it even […]

Feel Love, Be Free, Live Life, And Other Things To Do Before You Die

What do you want to do before you die? Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? Taiwanese-American artist Candy Chang’s urban art installation project “Before I Die” is not about death. It’s not a bucket list of things to do and see before you die. Rather, it’s a thought-provoking way of looking at how you’re living […]

Yoga Teachers: Be One Or Date One, It’s All The Rage

A funny thing is happening in the yoga world according to the Wall Street Journal and the Hollywood Reporter. Not exactly your go-to fitness resources, but there they were – stories about how yoga is changing the landscape of people’s careers and social lives. It seems that yoga enthusiasts are so enthusiastic about their practice, they’re […]

Graduation Day: A Celebration And Sad Reminder

If you’re someone like me who tried to have kids and couldn’t, there are times in life that can be sad reminders. For most child-free women, it’s probably Mother’s Day: an emotionally tough day for those of us who will never have children of our own to celebrate us. I can get through Mother’s Day […]

Late Bloomers: Marching To The Beat Of Our Own Drummers

Are you in your 40s and just now hitting your stride? Are you in your 50s and just finding your groove? Are you in your 60s or beyond and finally getting your shit together? If so, then you just might be a late bloomer. Congratulations! You are in good company. Other late bloomers include artist Paul Cezanne, poet Robert Frost, scientist Charles […]

Same Footsteps, Different Paths

She was in her early 20s, just off the boat from Scotland; he was in his early 30s, newly transplanted from Brooklyn when they met and married in the 50’s. Robby and I will be well into our 50s when we walk down the aisle for the first time. They had a half a handful of […]