The Late Blooming Bride Blogs

Feel Love, Be Free, Live Life, And Other Things To Do Before You Die

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What do you want to do before you die? Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? Taiwanese-American artist Candy Chang's urban art installation project “Before I Die” is not about death. It's not a bucket list of things to do and see before you die. Rather, it's a thought-provoking…

The Clooney Effect And Why It's Good For Smart Chicks

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To all my girlfriends lamenting the lack of men wanting intelligent, independent, self-reliant women, I say phooey! There are plenty of good men out there looking for good, substantive women. Don't believe me? Just ask George Clooney. If you didn’t notice last Sunday, George Clooney and Amal…

The Beauty Of F*cking Up

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The coming of Yom Kippur has me thinking about regret and guilt - you know, the usual suspects when it comes to feeling shitty about yourself. On Yom Kippur, we’re given a day to atone for our sins, to clean the slate, to clear our conscience, and make things right, while we fast for 24 hours…

Yoga Teachers: Be One Or Date One, It's All The Rage

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A funny thing is happening in the yoga world according to the Wall Street Journal and the Hollywood Reporter. Not exactly your go-to fitness resources, but there they were – stories about how yoga is changing the landscape of people’s careers and social lives. It seems that yoga enthusiasts are…

Surviving Single Life: 10 Tips

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Only child, divorced parents, single forever, yep, you could say I know a thing or two about being alone and on my own. Been there, done that, lived it, and survived. So can you. Whether you’re just entering singledom for the first time, or been there forever, single life is a journey-- a beautiful,…

Graduation Day: A Celebration And Sad Reminder

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If you’re someone like me who tried to have kids and couldn’t, there are times in life that can be sad reminders. For most child-free women, it’s probably Mother’s Day: an emotionally tough day for those of us who will never have children of our own to celebrate us. I can get through Mother’s…

My Life As A New Wife: The Year In Review

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Celebrating my first wedding anniversary made me feel kind of like Miss America coming to the end of her reign: triumphant, honored, and just a little bit sad to give back the tiara and say goodbye to my title of newlywed. But I must, because now at end of Year One, I am officially a wife - with…

The Agony And The Ecstasy: Memories Of Online Dating

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Before I got married, I had a love/hate relationship with online dating. JDate and I had a torrid romance, an on-again, off-again love affair, filled with highs and lows, starts and stops, and plenty of hits and misses. There was never a dull moment for me and JDate; we broke up a million times, but…

Midlife Dating: Men, What Say You?

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I gave the guys a little dating tough love in my last blog post, so it’s only fair to give the guys some equal time to speak on the state of the midlife singles scene as they see it. I wanted to know how men feel about dating fellow boomers, so I gathered up a few of my middle-aged guy friends,…

Fast & Furious: Dating Men In Their 50s

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Fellas, if you’re in your 50s, single and dating (and feeling like you’re not getting anywhere), consider this a little friendly feedback from the ladies. Maybe you’ve heard it all before, maybe it doesn’t apply to you, maybe you already know it all. It doesn’t matter, because when it comes…

Burping And Farting: Marriage Is A Gas!

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I've been married for a little over six months now, and as comfortable as I am around my husband, I still can’t bring myself to burp or fart in front of him. I will do anything to avoid anything intestinal in his presence. This includes holding it in, sucking it up, breathing through it, and…

When Your B.F.F. Turns Into A P.O.S.

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There are friend breakups, and then there are friend blowups. You know the kind: a falling out with a friend that turns into a spectacular flameout of epic proportions, complete with bad-mouthing and betrayal. A friendship can blow up over something as simple as a little misunderstanding, to some deep…

Oh My God! I Forgot To Have A Baby!

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I didn’t exactly forget, I just lost track of time. My mind was on other things: like figuring out my career path and deciding what I wanted in life. I always dreamed of being a wife and mother, and always operated on the assumption it would happen when it was supposed to, in its own time – whenever…

Suddenly Single? Talk To The Suddenly Married

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When I was invited to speak on a panel called “Suddenly Single" in September 2014, I thought, why not? Even though I had just gotten married a few months earlier, I figured who better than me to speak on the subject of being single. Between all the boyfriends and break-ups, I had been suddenly…

Married People: Who's F**king?

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When I was single I used to wonder about my married friends’ sex lives. How often do they do it? Is it good? Does it stay good? Is married sex better? I always wondered, but never asked-- maybe because I didn’t want to pry, or maybe because I didn’t want to know if the news was bad. I worried.…

A Career Dater Finally Quits Her Job

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Other than a few squabbles about bulk buying at Costco, the transition to married life has been pretty smooth. It’s new, but not weird. It’s an adjustment, but not a tough one. It’s a life change, but one that I welcomed, and probably needed. After living alone and being on my own for so long,…

I Like Big Rebuttals And I Cannot Lie

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And now a few words from Robby Scharf, my late blooming husband: Ah, my wife Treva. I love her like I’ve never loved anyone before. As beautiful as she is talented, she possesses a wonderful ability to convey in words what many of us think, but may not express. Her last blog post, “Women…

Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Costco

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It was either me move into his man cave/bachelor pad in the heart of gritty, urban downtown L.A., or him move into my charming, old French Normandy apartment on the Westside. Downtown L.A. is cool and groovy if you’re a guy, but not if you’re a princess from Beverly Hills. We had just gotten…

Late Bloomers: Marching To The Beat Of Our Own Drummers

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Are you in your 40s and just now hitting your stride? Are you in your 50s and just finding your groove? Are you in your 60s or beyond and finally getting your shit together? If so, then you just might be a late bloomer. Congratulations! You are in good company. Other late bloomers include…

My Vows: A Dream Writing Assignment

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Finally getting the chance to write my marriage vows was more than just this bride’s dream come true. It was this freelance writer’s finest hour. The dream assignment that had previously been out of reach for so many years, was now mine. I had waited patiently and worked tirelessly, but I finally…