The Late Blooming Bride Blogs

Oh My God! I Forgot To Have A Baby!

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I didn’t exactly forget, I just lost track of time. My mind was on other things: like figuring out my career path and deciding what I wanted in life. I always dreamed of being a wife and mother, and always operated on the assumption it would happen when it was supposed to, in its own time – whenever…

Suddenly Single? Talk To The Suddenly Married

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When I was invited to speak on a panel called “Suddenly Single" in September 2014, I thought, why not? Even though I had just gotten married a few months earlier, I figured who better than me to speak on the subject of being single. Between all the boyfriends and break-ups, I had been suddenly…

Married People: Who's F**king?

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When I was single I used to wonder about my married friends’ sex lives. How often do they do it? Is it good? Does it stay good? Is married sex better? I always wondered, but never asked-- maybe because I didn’t want to pry, or maybe because I didn’t want to know if the news was bad. I worried.…

A Career Dater Finally Quits Her Job

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Other than a few squabbles about bulk buying at Costco, the transition to married life has been pretty smooth. It’s new, but not weird. It’s an adjustment, but not a tough one. It’s a life change, but one that I welcomed, and probably needed. After living alone and being on my own for so long,…

I Like Big Rebuttals And I Cannot Lie

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And now a few words from Robby Scharf, my late blooming husband: Ah, my wife Treva. I love her like I’ve never loved anyone before. As beautiful as she is talented, she possesses a wonderful ability to convey in words what many of us think, but may not express. Her last blog post, “Women…

Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Costco

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It was either me move into his man cave/bachelor pad in the heart of gritty, urban downtown L.A., or him move into my charming, old French Normandy apartment on the Westside. Downtown L.A. is cool and groovy if you’re a guy, but not if you’re a princess from Beverly Hills. We had just gotten…

Late Bloomers: Marching To The Beat Of Our Own Drummers

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Are you in your 40s and just now hitting your stride? Are you in your 50s and just finding your groove? Are you in your 60s or beyond and finally getting your shit together? If so, then you just might be a late bloomer. Congratulations! You are in good company. Other late bloomers include…

My Vows: A Dream Writing Assignment

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Finally getting the chance to write my marriage vows was more than just this bride’s dream come true. It was this freelance writer’s finest hour. The dream assignment that had previously been out of reach for so many years, was now mine. I had waited patiently and worked tirelessly, but I finally…

Vintage Bob Mackie, New Mrs. Scharf

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Well, I did it. It was the world’s longest walk down the aisle. Only a few yards, but it took a lifetime to get there. It was a journey that had more twists and turns than a Hitchcock movie, more starts and stops than the Indy 500, and more bumps and bruises than a mixed martial arts match. But…

One Last Blast Before Take Off

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When you’ve been single as long as I have, every night is a sort of a bachelorette party. With no husband, no kids, not even a pet, I’ve been able to come and go as I please. I can get wild, go crazy, live it up, party hard, stay out late or not come home at all. Let me tell you, single life…

Sexy Lingerie + Mature Bride = Old Floozy?

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If you look inside my drawers – not those drawers, but yes, those drawers too – you’ll find a lot of beige. Beige underwear, beige bras, beige everything. Nothing too exciting, nothing too fancy, sexy, lacey, or daring, just a lot of functional, practical beige that gets the job done. I…

5 Ways To Know If Mr. Right Has The Right Stuff

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Many years ago, my good friend Kathie Gordon gave me this needlepoint pillow for my birthday. It was in the 90’s, and I was in my late-30s. For the single girl who had everything, it was a perfect gift. At the time I thought finding Mr. Right was right around the corner, and to be honest, I wasn’t…

Same Footsteps, Different Paths

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She was in her early 20s, just off the boat from Scotland; he was in his early 30s, newly transplanted from Brooklyn when they met and married in the 50's. Robby and I will be well into our 50s when we walk down the aisle for the first time. They had a half a handful of relationships before tying…

Eaton-Cox And The Great Hyphenate Debate

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To hyphenate or not to hyphenate. That is the question. If you’re Anna Wang and you’re marrying Brad Holder; or if you’re Katrina Busch and you’re marrying Matthew Hacker; or if you’re Kelly Long and you’re marrying Eric Wiwi, maybe hyphenating isn't such a great idea. Allow me to…

You're Never Too Old For A Bridal Show

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Ok, so I was the oldest bride at the bridal show, but who cares? Bridal shows are a hoot and I love them! Bridal shows are like carnivals for women, with all kinds of vendors selling their goods - from party rentals to place settings, dresses to DJs, wedding cakes to weight loss products, photography…

Welcome To Registry Hell

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I never thought shopping could be such torture until I got engaged. Suddenly, something I previously found fun, and maybe even therapeutic, has become pure torment. Registry shopping is like retail waterboarding – cruel and unusual. The selection is overwhelming. There are so many choices, so…

And Now, A Word From The Late Blooming Groom

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We interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to bring you Robby, my future better half. Since I’ve been doing all of the talking on these blog posts, I thought it might be time to hear another perspective on finding love later in life. So here he is, former bachelor, current fiancé, and fellow…

Still Single? Throw Yourself A Wedding!

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When I took the stage at Boardwalk 11 Karaoke Bar at my 50th birthday party last February, I was triumphant. Victorious. I felt proud of who I was, and what I had accomplished – getting to 50 as an independent, self-reliant woman. That wasn’t exactly the picture a few months before though.…

Marriage And Midlife: A First For Us Both

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Getting married for the first time at this age is a little weird. When most people our age are looking at colleges with their kids, we're looking at wedding venues. When most of our peers are preparing to be empty nesters, we're preparing to co-habitat for the first time. While most folks…

Some Accidental Advice From An Accidental Bride

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On my long journey to the altar, I seem to have picked up some accidental wisdom along the way. Call it unintended self-illumination or inadvertent enlightenment, the path to marriage has taught me a lot. Now, I realize that getting married isn’t the end-all, be-all pinnacle of success, but for…