Meet Treva Brandon Scharf

Writer, Speaker, Dating Coach, Radio Host, and late bloomer.

After being single forever, dating half the planet, and making every mistake in the book, Treva finally made a plan, found her man, and got married at age 51 in May 2014.

It was the world’s longest walk down the aisle, but it didn’t happen by accident. It happened because she got smart.

She decided to take everything she learned in her 35+ years as a fitness trainer and self-improvement advocate, and use it on herself. In other words, she kicked her own ass.

Hard work (and hard knocks) got her to the altar, now she’s ready to share all her hard-earned smarts and success with you.

If you want to be a better dater, find a healthy relationship, get married, or just be the happiest single person you can be, you’ve come to the right place. Treva’s wisdom and tough love will get you there.

Whether you’re a private client, blog follower, or radio listener, Treva’s dating training will help you achieve peak performance in both life and love.

The Late Blooming Bride Blogs

Is Donald Trump F-ing With Your Love Life?

It’s been over a year since the 2016 presidential campaign, nine months since the election, and six months since the inauguration, and I’ve just gotta know: Is Trump cramping your dating style? Are you a Republican finding it harder to hook up? Are you a Democrat getting laid left and right?…

The 3 Dirtiest Words In Dating

Benching. Breadcrumbing. Ghosting. You may not have heard these words before, but if you’re single and dating in 2017, chances are, you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve been a victim of one of these dirty dating practices, you have my sympathies. If you’ve ever knowingly committed…

"The Trump Effect" And How It's Affecting Me

This blog post isn’t about Donald Trump the candidate. It’s not about his platform or policies, or his vulgar comments caught on tape last week. In fact, this post isn’t about politics at all. It’s about Donald Trump the bully, and the effect his bullying is having on me. “The Trump Effect,”…

Can You Find The Love In Being Single?

  Before I got married, I had an on-again/off-again affair with being single. When we were on and things were good, I loved it; but when we were off, I hated it. There’s a lot to love about being single: you’ve got freedom and independence; you can come and go as you please; and…

Maybe It's Time To Go On A Digital Dating Diet

  “Enough!” said a friend recently who had it with online dating. She was fed-up, burned out, and ready to breakup. It's too much work, with little return, she complained. In protest, she was going to delete all her dating apps and join a nunnery. She's no nun, but she does have a…

Confessions Of A Closet Neurotic

People who know me as a personal trainer know I'm pretty tough. I’m strict. I’m disciplined. I push my clients to aim high, to work through their self-doubts, and to face their fears and find their strength—both physically and emotionally. And I get results. How? Because I've worked through…

Dear Ladies of Online Dating, This Letter Is For You

A few months ago, a college friend of mine who’s an avid online dater, received a note in her dating site inbox. It’s a love letter of sorts, in that the guy who wrote it was genuinely interested in her. But as you’ll see, the love didn’t last long. It was over before it even began, and they…

Feel Love, Be Free, Live Life, And Other Things To Do Before You Die

What do you want to do before you die? Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? Taiwanese-American artist Candy Chang's urban art installation project “Before I Die” is not about death. It's not a bucket list of things to do and see before you die. Rather, it's a thought-provoking…

The Clooney Effect And Why It's Good For Smart Chicks

To all my girlfriends lamenting the lack of men wanting intelligent, independent, self-reliant women, I say phooey! There are plenty of good men out there looking for good, substantive women. Don't believe me? Just ask George Clooney. If you didn’t notice last Sunday, George Clooney and Amal…

The Beauty Of F*cking Up

The coming of Yom Kippur has me thinking about regret and guilt - you know, the usual suspects when it comes to feeling shitty about yourself. On Yom Kippur, we’re given a day to atone for our sins, to clean the slate, to clear our conscience, and make things right, while we fast for 24 hours…

Yoga Teachers: Be One Or Date One, It's All The Rage

A funny thing is happening in the yoga world according to the Wall Street Journal and the Hollywood Reporter. Not exactly your go-to fitness resources, but there they were – stories about how yoga is changing the landscape of people’s careers and social lives. It seems that yoga enthusiasts are…

Surviving Single Life: 10 Tips

Only child, divorced parents, single forever, yep, you could say I know a thing or two about being alone and on my own. Been there, done that, lived it, and survived. So can you. Whether you’re just entering singledom for the first time, or been there forever, single life is a journey-- a beautiful,…

Graduation Day: A Celebration And Sad Reminder

If you’re someone like me who tried to have kids and couldn’t, there are times in life that can be sad reminders. For most child-free women, it’s probably Mother’s Day: an emotionally tough day for those of us who will never have children of our own to celebrate us. I can get through Mother’s…

My Life As A New Wife: The Year In Review

Celebrating my first wedding anniversary made me feel kind of like Miss America coming to the end of her reign: triumphant, honored, and just a little bit sad to give back the tiara and say goodbye to my title of newlywed. But I must, because now at end of Year One, I am officially a wife - with…