Meet Treva Brandon Scharf

ICF-Certified Professional Life Coach, Dating Coach, Fitness Professional, Writer

After being single forever, and making every mistake in the book, Treva finally made a plan, found her man, and got married at age 51 in May 2014.

It was the world’s longest walk down the aisle, but it didn’t happen by accident. It happened because she got smart.

Treva decided to take everything she learned in her 35+ years as a fitness professional and use it on herself. In other words, she kicked her own ass.

Hard work (and hard knocks) got her to the altar, now she’s sharing all her hard-earned smarts and success with you.

If you want to date smarter, get stronger, and find your greatness, you’ve come to the right place. Treva’s tough love coaching will help you achieve peak performance in both life and love.

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2nd Act TV: Have You Forever Sucked at Relationships? Love and Relationship Advice from a Late Bloomer!

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When it comes to relationships, writer, radio host and dating coach Treva Brandon Scharf is the ultimate late bloomer. In her words, “she sucked at relationships” and wrote a blog about it!
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Healthy Relationships: Ande Anderson & Treva Brandon Scharf

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Treva interview with Ande Anderson during the Healthy Relationships Online Conference.
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Overcoming Dating Trials and Tribulations with Treva Brandon Scharf

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RD&T TV Network Interview with Treva Brandon Scharf, Fitness Pro and Dating Coach at Treva Brandon Scharf. Treva gives an open and honest account of everything she learned during her decades of dating trials and tribulations.
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How to Find Love Later in Life with Treva Brandon Scharf

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Treva Brandon Scharf is a writer, dating coach, and fitness professional. With over 35 years in the fitness industry, and 50 years in the singles world, Treva helps people achieve peak performance in both life and love.
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Self-Improving Your Chances At Love

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“I am the most important mover of my chances in life.” I don’t know where I found this saying--probably in a self-improvement or personal growth blog—all I know is that it resonated so much with me, I highlighted the text, enlarged the font, printed it out, cut it into a strip, placed it on…
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Romance Is Dying, Here's How To Save It

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Sorry, technology, I love you, but you’re ruining romance. You’re killing it. Sucking the life out of it. You’re the death knell of courtship—a soon-to-be lost art if someone doesn’t do something about it. On one hand, technology has been a shot in the arm to dating, helping people find…
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Admit It, You Suck At Relationships

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It's OK, you can admit it. You suck at relationships. You're great getting into them, pretty decent getting out of them, but you suck at staying in them. You're not alone. I used to suck at relationships, too. Most times, it was me. Sometimes it was them. I’d get restless, lose interest,…
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Dating TMI: Let It Rip Or Keep It Zipped?

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“We had magic, it was immediate bliss. Being with him was a perfect world. We would connect on such a deep level, and he made me feel beautiful. It felt loving and honest. We could talk for hours about anything. But after he’d go home, things would change. He’d call the next day, and be moody…
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Surviving Breakup Hell

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Your world is shattered, your guts are wrenched, your soul is crushed, your ego blown, and your heart is broken into a million pieces. Welcome to Breakup Hell, the absolute worst place on earth. Before I got married for the first time at 50, I must've visited Breakup Hell a thousand times, and…
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Singles Sex: When To Have It, When Not To Have It

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  “I’m dating, when should I have sex?” On the first date? Third date? After a month? As soon as you lose 10 pounds? When to have sex depends on what you want, where you’re at, and most importantly, what your needs and goals are. “I WANT THIS RELATIONSHIP TO LAST” If you…
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Is Donald Trump F-ing With Your Love Life?

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It’s been over a year since the 2016 presidential campaign, nine months since the election, and six months since the inauguration, and I’ve just gotta know: Is Trump cramping your dating style? Are you a Republican finding it harder to hook up? Are you a Democrat getting laid left and right?…
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The 3 Dirtiest Words In Dating

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Benching. Breadcrumbing. Ghosting. You may not have heard these words before, but if you’re single and dating in 2017, chances are, you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve been a victim of one of these dirty dating practices, you have my sympathies. If you’ve ever knowingly committed…
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"The Trump Effect" And How It's Affecting Me

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This blog post isn’t about Donald Trump the candidate. It’s not about his platform or policies, or his vulgar comments caught on tape last week. In fact, this post isn’t about politics at all. It’s about Donald Trump the bully, and the effect his bullying is having on me. “The Trump Effect,”…
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Can You Find The Love In Being Single?

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  Before I got married, I had an on-again/off-again affair with being single. When we were on and things were good, I loved it; but when we were off, I hated it. There’s a lot to love about being single: you’ve got freedom and independence; you can come and go as you please; and…
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Maybe It's Time To Go On A Digital Dating Diet

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  “Enough!” said a friend recently who had it with online dating. She was fed-up, burned out, and ready to breakup. It's too much work, with little return, she complained. In protest, she was going to delete all her dating apps and join a nunnery. She's no nun, but she does have a…
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Confessions Of A Closet Neurotic

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People who know me as a personal trainer know I'm pretty tough. I’m strict. I’m disciplined. I push my clients to aim high, to work through their self-doubts, and to face their fears and find their strength—both physically and emotionally. And I get results. How? Because I've worked through…
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Dear Ladies of Online Dating, This Letter Is For You

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A few months ago, a college friend of mine who’s an avid online dater, received a note in her dating site inbox. It’s a love letter of sorts, in that the guy who wrote it was genuinely interested in her. But as you’ll see, the love didn’t last long. It was over before it even began, and they…
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Feel Love, Be Free, Live Life, And Other Things To Do Before You Die

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What do you want to do before you die? Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? Taiwanese-American artist Candy Chang's urban art installation project “Before I Die” is not about death. It's not a bucket list of things to do and see before you die. Rather, it's a thought-provoking…
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