Treva’s Statement On COVID-19

Meet Treva

Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life coach, dating coach, fitness professional, and marriage first-timer at 51. A lifelong athlete with a lifetime of singles experience, Treva knows first-hand how to build resilience, overcome limiting beliefs, and eliminate the obstacles to finding love and success.

As a trainer, Treva changes bodies; as a life coach, she changes lives. As a post-50 influencer, Treva is a strong voice for midlife empowerment for both men and women. Through her blogs, podcasts, online summits, interviews, articles, and private coaching, Treva motivates, inspires, and kicks ass.

When you work with Treva, you commit to self-improvement on every level: from feeling positive about your body to feeling positive about your potential. Her style is intuitive and interactive. She includes personal growth, creative exercises, guided visualization, fitness, even astrology into her coaching program. And she gets results.

If you’re looking to level up, reinvent yourself, date smarter, or find your greatness within, you’ve come to the right place. Treva’s tough love coaching will help you achieve your personal best in life and love.

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185. Finding Love Over 50 During COVID – Guest Expert Treva Brandon Scharf

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175. Losing Both Parents During a Pandemic – In Conversation with Treva Brandon Scharf

Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life coach, dating expert, fitness pro, blogger, and marriage first-timer at 51. Listen Now

How To Rock That Resume with Madelyn Hammond: 30 Min Convo with Guest Speaker, Treva Brandon Scharf

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Join Madelyn Hammond and guest speaker, Treva Brandon Scharf as they talk about personal chemistry, how to handle rejection and the connection between fitness and mental health.  

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“You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” – Epictetus *  *  * I have a client who just broke up with her longtime boyfriend, and even though she's heartbroken, she knew it had to end. The…

A Bad Relationship is a Terrible Thing to Waste

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“You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” – Epictetus * * * * * * * * I have a client who just broke up with her longtime boyfriend, and even though she's heartbroken, she knew it had to…

Put Yourself On Your Own Damn Pedestal

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There was a time in my life when love was so elusive, when committed relationships felt so unobtainable, and marriage so out of reach, it had me convinced I wasn’t good enough, and that everyone was too good for me. I was in my late 40s, still single, and on a horrible losing streak. Nonstarters…
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Treva’s Statement On COVID-19

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So what does a single man in midlife looking for love really want? A lot less than you’d think. A few weeks ago I read an article about a widow in her 50s named Kerry McAvoy, who had just entered the online dating world after 30 years of marriage. What she found shocked her, but it didn’t shock…
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