After being single forever, and making every mistake in the book, Treva finally made a plan, found her man, and got married at 51 in May 2014. It was the world’s longest walk down the aisle, but it didn’t happen by accident. It happened because she got smart.
Treva decided to take everything she learned in her 35+ years in the fitness business to use on herself. In other words, she kicked her own ass. Hard work (and hard knocks) got her to the altar, now she’s sharing all her secrets and smarts with you through her empowering blogs, podcasts, online summits, interviews, articles, and private coaching.
As a trainer, Treva changes bodies; as a life coach, she changes lives. As a post-50 influencer in the dating and singles world, Treva changes the way people approach to love. She believes finding love starts with being an empowered single first.
When you work with Treva, you commit to self-improvement on every level, from feeling positive about your body to feeling positive about your potential. Treva’s unique coaching program is collaborative, intuitive, and interactive. She combines personal growth, guided visualization, astrology, and fitness tips, to achieve your goals.
If you want to date smarter, get stronger, and find your greatness within, you’ve come to the right place. Treva’s tough love coaching will help you achieve your personal best in life and love.
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I came across a Reddit thread the other day about "Post Nut Clarity." I had no idea what the term meant, but the word "nut" gave me a clue. So after scrolling down a few hundred comments from mostly horny millennial guys, it became clear: Post nut clarity is an epiphany or realization you have after…
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The pandemic has turned our world upside down. The way we live, interact, and connect, have all have been disrupted. Being single seems harder, dating feels more challenging, and it takes more effort to stay focused and motivated. But it doesn’t have to be this way. There are creative solutions and…
I bet you didn't know (and I'm sure he doesn't know either) but Navy SEAL Admiral William H. McRaven is an accidental dating and relationship expert.
When he offered his 10 life lessons in a commencement speech to the University of Texas at Austin, he wasn't exactly talking about LOVE, but he could've…
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Falling in love is a death-defying act.
You're head-over-heels, topsy-turvy, with zero gravity, zero certainty, and no way of knowing which way is up.
When you fall in love, you have no control, no grip, no balance. You're vulnerable, powerless, dizzy, exposed. You don’t know how you’ll land,…
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So what does a single man in midlife looking for love really want? A lot less than you’d think.
A few weeks ago I read an article about a widow in her 50s named Kerry McAvoy, who had just entered the online dating world after 30 years of marriage. What she found shocked her, but it didn’t shock…
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How’s your dating life going since the pandemic? Non-existent or “what pandemic?”
Has it ground to a halt or going gangbusters? Have you gone into hibernation or gone wild? Or, have you realized you just don’t give a shit and deleted all your dating apps? There’s no bad answer here.
There's going to come a time when life gets back to normal, and normal dating will resume. Other than still practicing some social distancing and washing your hands every five seconds, chances are, you'll still be the same person you were before the pandemic, and so will the people you'll be dating.
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Did you see Brené Brown’s interview on CBS 60 Minutes a few weeks ago, where she sang the praises of vulnerability? It spoke to me. In fact, it moved me so much, I watched it again online because I didn’t want to miss a single piece of her wisdom. And it wasn’t just wisdom she doled out, it was…
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If there was ever a time to rethink how we love and live, it's now.
The coronavirus has changed life as we know it: how we live, function, do business, socialize, and date. But all is not bleak. Life will go on, and hopefully with more awareness and mindfulness. In the time of coronavirus, I think…
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Picture this scenario:
You’ve been in a relationship for a few months, and things are going well. There’s intimacy and possible signs of real commitment. There's potential here, but you’re purposely keeping it light and letting things unfold. You see a future with this BF/GF, so you’re making…
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Believe it or not, your anger will turn into gratitude.
It might not be tomorrow, or next week. It might not be a month, a year, or even a few years, but in time, you will look back upon the ex you once reviled and the breakup that almost killed you, and say thanks.
I had a boyfriend I was madly…
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Before I got married for the first time at 51, I thought I knew what true compatibility was: connecting on a mind, body, and soul level. If we connected on enough levels, we were compatible. Compatibility meant we had potential, possibility, maybe even a real shot at love.
Everyone has their own definition…
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It began five years ago when I got married for the first time at 51. My husband, also a marriage first-timer, was 57.
I thought it was an interesting story. Here we are, two people in our 50s, with no exes, no kids, no baggage (emotional, maybe) manage to find each other after a lifetime of looking.
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“I am the most important mover of my chances in life.”
I don’t know where I found this saying--probably in a self-improvement or personal growth blog—all I know is that it resonated so much with me, I highlighted the text, enlarged the font, printed it out, cut it into a strip, placed it on…
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