Meet Treva

After being single forever, and making every mistake in the book, Treva finally made a plan, found her man, got engaged at 50, and married at 51 in May 2014. It was the world’s longest walk down the aisle, but it didn’t happen by accident. It happened because she got smart.

Treva decided to take everything she learned in her 35+ years in the fitness business to use on herself. In other words, she kicked her own ass. Hard work (and hard knocks) got her to the altar, now she’s sharing all her secrets and smarts with you through her empowering blogs, podcasts, conferences, summits, articles, and private one-on-one coaching.

As a trainer, Treva changes bodies; as a life coach, she changes lives; and as a post-50 influencer in the dating and singles world, Treva changes the way people find and keep love. She’s walked the walk, been in the trenches, and knows first-hand how to get results.

Whether in-person or online, when you collaborate with Treva, you commit to self-improvement on every level, from feeling positive about your body, to feeling positive about your potential. Treva’s unique coaching program combines partnership, motivation, accountability, self-empowerment exercises, guided visualization, and fitness. Together, you work like coach and athlete to achieve your goals.

If you want to date smarter, get stronger, and find your greatness within, you’ve come to the right place. Treva’s tough love coaching will help you achieve your personal best in both life and love.

The Latest

How To Rock That Resume with Madelyn Hammond: 30 Min Convo with Guest Speaker, Treva Brandon Scharf

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Join Madelyn Hammond and guest speaker, Treva Brandon Scharf as they talk about personal chemistry, how to handle rejection and the connection between fitness and mental health.  

Balanced Life: Interview with Treva Brandon Scharf

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The things no one tells you about dating post 50.

2nd Act TV: Have You Forever Sucked at Relationships? Love and Relationship Advice from a Late Bloomer!

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When it comes to relationships, writer, radio host and dating coach Treva Brandon Scharf is the ultimate late bloomer. In her words, “she sucked at relationships” and wrote a blog about it!

Healthy Relationships: Ande Anderson & Treva Brandon Scharf

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Treva interview with Ande Anderson during the Healthy Relationships Online Conference.

The Late Blooming Bride Blogs

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Falling In Love Is Scary AF

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Falling in love is a death-defying act. You're head-over-heels, topsy-turvy, with zero gravity, zero certainty, and no way of knowing which way is up. When you fall in love, you have no control, no grip, no balance. You're vulnerable, powerless, dizzy, exposed. You don’t know how you’ll land,…
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Dating Post-50: You Just Might Get What You Need

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So what does a single man in midlife looking for love really want? A lot less than you’d think. A few weeks ago I read an article about a widow in her 50s named Kerry McAvoy, who had just entered the online dating world after 30 years of marriage. What she found shocked her, but it didn’t shock…
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Single In A Pandemic? You've Got Options

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How’s your dating life going since the pandemic? Non-existent or “what pandemic?” Has it ground to a halt or going gangbusters? Have you gone into hibernation or gone wild? Or, have you realized you just don’t give a shit and deleted all your dating apps? There’s no bad answer here. It’s…
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Post-COVID Dating: The People You Still Need To Avoid

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There's going to come a time when life gets back to normal, and normal dating will resume. Other than still practicing some social distancing and washing your hands every five seconds, chances are, you'll still be the same person you were before the pandemic, and so will the people you'll be dating. Except…

Vulnerability Is The New Black

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Did you see Brené Brown’s interview on CBS 60 Minutes a few weeks ago, where she sang the praises of vulnerability? It spoke to me. In fact, it moved me so much, I watched it again online because I didn’t want to miss a single piece of her wisdom. And it wasn’t just wisdom she doled out, it was…

Keeping Love Alive In The Time Of Coronavirus

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If there was ever a time to rethink how we love and live, it's now. The coronavirus has changed life as we know it: how we live, function, do business, socialize, and date. But all is not bleak. Life will go on, and hopefully with more awareness and mindfulness. In the time of coronavirus, I think…

We Need To Have A Talk About Having "The Talk"

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Picture this scenario: You’ve been in a relationship for a few months, and things are going well. There’s intimacy and possible signs of real commitment. There's potential here, but you’re purposely keeping it light and letting things unfold. You see a future with this BF/GF, so you’re making…
Trust Your Struggle

One Day You Will Thank The Ex Who Dumped You

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Believe it or not, your anger will turn into gratitude. It might not be tomorrow, or next week. It might not be a month, a year, or even a few years, but in time, you will look back upon the ex you once reviled and the breakup that almost killed you, and say thanks. I had a boyfriend I was madly…

You're Not Truly Compatible Unless You Have This

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Before I got married for the first time at 51, I thought I knew what true compatibility was: connecting on a mind, body, and soul level. If we connected on enough levels, we were compatible. Compatibility meant we had potential, possibility, maybe even a real shot at love. Everyone has their own definition…

I've Co-Hosted A Podcast About Love For A Year, Here's What I've Learned

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It began five years ago when I got married for the first time at 51. My husband, also a marriage first-timer, was 57. I thought it was an interesting story. Here we are, two people in our 50s, with no exes, no kids, no baggage (emotional, maybe) manage to find each other after a lifetime of looking. To…

Self-Improving Your Chances At Love

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“I am the most important mover of my chances in life.” I don’t know where I found this saying--probably in a self-improvement or personal growth blog—all I know is that it resonated so much with me, I highlighted the text, enlarged the font, printed it out, cut it into a strip, placed it on…

Romance Is Dying, Here's How To Save It

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Sorry, technology, I love you, but you’re ruining romance. You’re killing it. Sucking the life out of it. You’re the death knell of courtship—a soon-to-be lost art if someone doesn’t do something about it. On one hand, technology has been a shot in the arm to dating, helping people find…

Admit It, You Suck At Relationships

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It's OK, you can admit it. You suck at relationships. You're great getting into them, pretty decent getting out of them, but you suck at staying in them. You're not alone. I used to suck at relationships, too. Most times, it was me. Sometimes it was them. I’d get restless, lose interest,…

Dating TMI: Let It Rip Or Keep It Zipped?

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“We had magic, it was immediate bliss. Being with him was a perfect world. We would connect on such a deep level, and he made me feel beautiful. It felt loving and honest. We could talk for hours about anything. But after he’d go home, things would change. He’d call the next day, and be moody…