Meet Treva Brandon Scharf

Writer, Speaker, Dating Coach, Radio Host, and late bloomer.

After being single forever, dating half the planet, and making every mistake in the book, Treva finally made a plan, found her man, and got married at age 51 in May 2014.

It was the world’s longest walk down the aisle, but it didn’t happen by accident. It happened because she got smart.

She decided to use everything she learned as a 35+ year fitness professional, and used it on herself. In other words, she kicked her own ass.

Hard work (and hard knocks) got her to the altar, now she’s ready to share all her hard-earned smarts and success with you.

If you want to be a smarter dater, recognize red flags, and break old habits and thinking, you’ve come to the right place. Treva’s tough love advice and dating training will help you achieve peak performance in both life and love.

The Latest

How to Find Love Later in Life with Treva Brandon Scharf

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Treva Brandon Scharf is a writer, dating coach, and fitness professional. With over 35 years in the fitness industry, and 50 years in the singles world, Treva helps people achieve peak performance in both life and love. As a first-time bride at 50, Treva writes about finding love later in life…

INTIMATE CONVERSATIONS with Allana Pratt: Treva Brandon Scharf, Done Being Single

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Wow, this woman GETS the process and has LIVED the process of what it takes to being DONE being single! She understands what we put into our inner growth is what we get out of the relationship we manifest. She gets that holding on with a death grip is the surest way to push love away. She gets that…

You Can't Hurry Love: Interview with the Late Blooming Bride (and a groom, too!)

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Why does it take so long for some of us to find The One? They say “timing is everything” but is that always the case? Or do some of us need to work through our "issues" before love will come our way? For Treva Brandon Scharf, getting married at age 50 revamped not only her love life, but her career…

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Dating TMI: Let It Rip Or Keep It Zipped?

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“We had magic, it was immediate bliss. Being with him was a perfect world. We would connect on such a deep level, and he made me feel beautiful. It felt loving and honest. We could talk for hours about anything. But after he’d go home, things would change. He’d call the next day, and be moody…

Surviving Breakup Hell

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You can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t think, can’t function. Your head is reeling, your guts are wrenched, your soul is crushed, your ego blown, your dreams shattered, and your heart is broken into a million pieces. In other words, you want to die. Welcome to Breakup Hell, the absolute worst place…

Singles Sex: When To Have It, When Not To Have It

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  “I’m dating, when should I have sex?” On the first date? Third date? After a month? As soon as you lose 10 pounds? When to have sex depends on what you want, where you’re at, and most importantly, what your needs and goals are. “I WANT THIS RELATIONSHIP TO LAST” If you…

Is Donald Trump F-ing With Your Love Life?

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It’s been over a year since the 2016 presidential campaign, nine months since the election, and six months since the inauguration, and I’ve just gotta know: Is Trump cramping your dating style? Are you a Republican finding it harder to hook up? Are you a Democrat getting laid left and right?…

The 3 Dirtiest Words In Dating

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Benching. Breadcrumbing. Ghosting. You may not have heard these words before, but if you’re single and dating in 2017, chances are, you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve been a victim of one of these dirty dating practices, you have my sympathies. If you’ve ever knowingly committed…

"The Trump Effect" And How It's Affecting Me

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This blog post isn’t about Donald Trump the candidate. It’s not about his platform or policies, or his vulgar comments caught on tape last week. In fact, this post isn’t about politics at all. It’s about Donald Trump the bully, and the effect his bullying is having on me. “The Trump Effect,”…

Can You Find The Love In Being Single?

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  Before I got married, I had an on-again/off-again affair with being single. When we were on and things were good, I loved it; but when we were off, I hated it. There’s a lot to love about being single: you’ve got freedom and independence; you can come and go as you please; and…

Maybe It's Time To Go On A Digital Dating Diet

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  “Enough!” said a friend recently who had it with online dating. She was fed-up, burned out, and ready to breakup. It's too much work, with little return, she complained. In protest, she was going to delete all her dating apps and join a nunnery. She's no nun, but she does have a…

Confessions Of A Closet Neurotic

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People who know me as a personal trainer know I'm pretty tough. I’m strict. I’m disciplined. I push my clients to aim high, to work through their self-doubts, and to face their fears and find their strength—both physically and emotionally. And I get results. How? Because I've worked through…

Dear Ladies of Online Dating, This Letter Is For You

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A few months ago, a college friend of mine who’s an avid online dater, received a note in her dating site inbox. It’s a love letter of sorts, in that the guy who wrote it was genuinely interested in her. But as you’ll see, the love didn’t last long. It was over before it even began, and they…

Feel Love, Be Free, Live Life, And Other Things To Do Before You Die

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What do you want to do before you die? Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? Taiwanese-American artist Candy Chang's urban art installation project “Before I Die” is not about death. It's not a bucket list of things to do and see before you die. Rather, it's a thought-provoking…

The Clooney Effect And Why It's Good For Smart Chicks

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To all my girlfriends lamenting the lack of men wanting intelligent, independent, self-reliant women, I say phooey! There are plenty of good men out there looking for good, substantive women. Don't believe me? Just ask George Clooney. If you didn’t notice last Sunday, George Clooney and Amal…

The Beauty Of F*cking Up

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The coming of Yom Kippur has me thinking about regret and guilt - you know, the usual suspects when it comes to feeling shitty about yourself. On Yom Kippur, we’re given a day to atone for our sins, to clean the slate, to clear our conscience, and make things right, while we fast for 24 hours…

Yoga Teachers: Be One Or Date One, It's All The Rage

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A funny thing is happening in the yoga world according to the Wall Street Journal and the Hollywood Reporter. Not exactly your go-to fitness resources, but there they were – stories about how yoga is changing the landscape of people’s careers and social lives. It seems that yoga enthusiasts are…