Private Coaching

Welcome to my coaching page, and congratulations to you for taking this next step!

Wanting to make meaningful changes in your life is an act of courage that asks for discipline and accountability, commitment and fearlessness. It requires believing that you’re worthy and deserving, and sometimes, it requires having someone by your side believing in you, too. This is where a good coach comes in. This is where I come in.

As a former fitness professional, I changed bodies; as an International Coaching Federation-certified life, dating, and relationship coach, I change lives.

When you work with me, you commit to self-improvement on every level: from feeling positive about your body to feeling positive about your prospects. My coaching style is intuitive, interactive, collaborative, and hands-on. Together, as coach and client, we develop actionable plans and strategies to keep you on-task, on-track, on-point.

My three-month coaching program includes weekly 60-minute Zoom sessions, along with weekly homework, reading assignments, self-reflective writing exercises, guided visualization, and manifestation techniques. Dating coaching includes crafting online profiles and bios, and assistance with apps and messaging.

My coaching is ground-up, test-driven, and designed to accomplish all kinds of goals. Whatever your project or purpose, I am your partner and champion on your journey.

For both life coaching and dating coaching, I use techniques and tools steeped in personal growth that will help you gain:

  • More resilience and confidence
  • Better communication skills
  • Increased self-awareness
  • Improved self-worth and self-esteem
  • Faster pathways to love

If you’re feeling stuck, I’ll get you moving. If you’re feeling fearful, I’ll get you flowing. If you have a goal, I’ll keep you accountable. If you want to find your greatness, I’ll bring it out. My mission as a coach is to help you find your path forward; your mission is to forge your own way.

If you’re ready to level up in life and love, fill out the form below to schedule a free 30-minute breakthrough coaching session now.

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I owe Treva for getting me through a huge block around writing and posting a profile online! As an older single woman, I found her experience as a “late bloomer” encouraging.  Her background as an athlete and her sense of humor helped me bond with and trust her. Thanks to Treva I’m now navigating the world of online dating!

Kim, 69

“It’s my honor and pleasure to recommend Treva as a dating coach.  She not only gave me a helpful “woman’s perspective”, she helped me to look at things in ways I had not before.  And Treva is there for you with a willing ear and sound advice whenever you call her.”

Kenny M. 58

“Treva has done such in depth work on herself in so many ways, and for many years, so it only makes sense that she would want to impart all her wisdom on others. I have experienced her life coaching techniques first hand. When i went to her for help, her insight was astounding. In a matter of hours, she completely changed my outlook. She shifted my focus and taught me how to see things and do things differently. She came up with very positive solutions, that I will carry with me forever. I recommend Treva to anyone who is looking to get help in life.”

Madelyn T. 61

As we navigate our individual journeys, we sometimes find ourselves in need of external support and guidance. I was fortunate to have a family friend recommend Treva Scharf to me. As Treva is not local to my city, we set up weekly video and phone calls. Even though I am a generation younger than Treva, I found our sessions so helpful. Treva is warm, approachable and accessible. She was able to offer and reinforce information allowing me to better work through stressful situations and achieve desired goals. I consider Treva a friend and know she will be there for me even after we stop working together.

Stacy, 36

Coaching sessions with Treva Brandon Scharf was the best gift I ever received. And I gave it to myself. Yes! After emerging from a long marriage to a difficult partner, my self-esteem was shattered. When I first met Treva, I was chasing a man who played hot and cold with me: seemingly interested but little by little, he went cold and then weeks later, pursued me again. The cycle repeated the pattern from my marriage, and I thought I was doomed. No matter how hard I tried, I could not change myself. Then Treva came along! She was intuitive, kind, empathetic, and brilliantly attuned to my needs. Not only did Treva get me unstuck, but she also helped me stop lifelong behaviors that worked against my well-being. Now, I am no longer attracted to men who will treat me badly. Treva showed me how to spot them! Before the coaching, I would have said I deserved better, but I didn’t really believe it. Now, I know down to my toes that everyone, even myself, deserves love. It only blossoms in healthy relationships—the very thing that eluded me my entire life. I didn’t change overnight. It took listening to Treva, processing her wisdom on a deep level, and applying the lessons to my circumstances. Little by little, Treva helped me transform from the inside out. As a result of her coaching, I am optimistic about my future. I highly, highly recommend Treva. Her coaching will make a marvelous difference in your life!

Victoria, 67

“Treva shares her expertise with experience, sympathy, and insight going forward from wherever you are in your life at the time, to where you want to go. I have worked with Treva for a while, she helped me “Find me,” and then prepared me to find an awesome gal to have a wonderful relationship with. It worked, I found her, I’m extremely fortunate and very appreciative of Treva’s efforts. Treva rocks! “

Steve B. 62

“I am a life coach and thought I could work through my current issues. However, after three years I realized I couldn’t. Almost by chance I found Treva Brandon Scharf through the internet and called to set up an appoointment with her.

Within about 10 minutes, Treva established an outstanding rapport with me. I felt heard and understood! Treva cut to the chase and didn’t waste anytime in telling me what was needed from me as well as brainstorming about my creative idea that I have been working on for many years. I especially liked her baby steps approach as that works best for someone like me.

After only one session, I was excited and felt confident about moving forward! Treva is a wonderful life coach, sincere, honest, smart and straightforward. I look forward to seeing her next week!”

Karen K. 65

I originally found Treva on Facebook and decided to contact her, because I needed advice on dating. She gave me a lot of great information. I was very impressed. During our conversation, she mentioned to me that she’s a dating coach. I had no idea that existed, but it intrigued me. So, I started working with her.

From the start of our very first Zoom conversation, I felt like I had known her my whole life. She’s very easy to talk to. She’s smart, intuitive, caring, warm, and has a wonderfully engaging personality. She’s easy to work with, while at the same time, she’s demanding and strong when she needs to be. Her extensive experience as a coach/personal trainer and athlete, has prepared her well. Whenever I talk with her, she seems to have a sixth sense of me and my life. She reads people very well. Even though I had no idea what a dating coach was, I now realize how invaluable she has been to me. Navigating the crazy world of dating can be quite daunting. I can’t imagine going through it without her help. I very highly recommend Treva to anyone who is looking to better themselves, and to anyone who is looking for the person who’s the best fit for them. I have already recommended her to a family member and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her to anyone I know.

David M. 60