My Post Yom Kippur Thoughts on Forgiving Assholes
Do you forgive an asshole? That’s what I’m wondering today. It’s Yom Kippur, the “Day of Atonement,” and as a Jew, I should be atoning for my sins and abstaining from pretty much everything in modern life, yet here I am at my desk writing, not fasting, not going to temple or praying. Instead, I’m […]
Single People, Are You Misbehaving in the Dating World?
As a dating coach, I often wonder what happened to civility in dating. Where did it go? How did we lose it? When did people forget to be kind to each other? What killed dating etiquette, and who’s to blame for its sorry state? Based on my observations, it’s a combination of dating apps, eroding […]
Trump Is Making My Job Harder as a Dating Coach
Reading NYT columnist Thomas Friedman’s recent Op-Ed piece “How We’ve Lost Our Moorings as a Society,” got me thinking about how the dating world is also losing its moorings. In his article, Friedman talks about the loss of social, normative, and political guardrails, and how the things that once held us together–morals, values, civility, and […]
Cuffing Season is Officially Open
The holidays can be a time of great joy and celebration, but if you’re single, all that joy and celebration can make you feel, well, very single. Back in my single days, I spent many a holiday on my own (i.e. not in a relationship). I wasn’t totally alone though. Thankfully, I had friends that […]
Dating Advice is Life Advice
I just published my first book, titled “Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love.” When I first submitted my manuscript to my publisher, they asked which category I thought it belonged in. The title says “single,” “late bloomer,” and “love,” so one could surmise it’s a relationship book for people in midlife. It […]
Vulnerability Is The New Black
Did you see Brené Brown’s interview on CBS 60 Minutes a few weeks ago, where she sang the praises of vulnerability? It spoke to me. In fact, it moved me so much, I watched it again online because I didn’t want to miss a single piece of her wisdom. And it wasn’t just wisdom she […]
We Need To Have A Talk About Having “The Talk”
Picture this scenario: You’ve been in a relationship for a few months, and things are going well. There’s intimacy and possible signs of real commitment. There’s potential here, but you’re purposely keeping it light and letting things unfold. You see a future with this BF/GF, so you’re making sure not to pressure or get ahead […]
One Day You Will Thank The Ex Who Dumped You
Believe it or not, your anger will turn into gratitude. It might not be tomorrow, or next week. It might not be a month, a year, or even a few years, but in time, you will look back upon the ex you once reviled and the breakup that almost killed you, and say thanks. I […]
You’re Not Truly Compatible Unless You Have This
Before I got married for the first time at 51, I thought I knew what true compatibility was: connecting on a mind, body, and soul level. If we connected on enough levels, we were compatible. Compatibility meant we had potential, possibility, maybe even a real shot at love. Everyone has their own definition of compatibility, […]
I’ve Co-Hosted A Podcast About Love For A Year, Here’s What I’ve Learned
It began five years ago when I got married for the first time at 51. My husband, also a marriage first-timer, was 57. I thought it was an interesting story. Here we are, two people in our 50s, with no exes, no kids, no baggage (emotional, maybe) manage to find each other after a lifetime […]
