Treva’s Statement On COVID-19
The pandemic has turned our world upside down. The way we live, interact, and connect, have all have been disrupted. Being single seems harder, dating feels more challenging, and it takes more effort to stay focused and motivated. But it doesn’t have to be this way. There are creative solutions and strategies to finding love–and […]
10 Life & Love Lessons from Me and Navy SEAL Admiral McRaven
I bet you didn’t know (and I’m sure he doesn’t know either) but Navy SEAL Admiral William H. McRaven is an accidental dating and relationship expert. When he offered his 10 life lessons in a commencement speech to the University of Texas at Austin, he wasn’t exactly talking about LOVE, but he could’ve been. In urging […]
Falling In Love Is Scary AF
Falling in love is a death-defying act. You’re head-over-heels, topsy-turvy, with zero gravity, zero certainty, and no way of knowing which way is up. When you fall in love, you have no control, no grip, no balance. You’re vulnerable, powerless, dizzy, exposed. You don’t know how you’ll land, where you’ll land, or if you’ll land […]
Dating Post-50: You Just Might Get What You Need
So what does a single man in midlife looking for love really want? A lot less than you’d think. A few weeks ago I read an article about a widow in her 50s named Kerry McAvoy, who had just entered the online dating world after 30 years of marriage. What she found shocked her, but it […]
Single In A Pandemic? You’ve Got Options
How’s your dating life going since the pandemic? Non-existent or “what pandemic?” Has it ground to a halt or going gangbusters? Have you gone into hibernation or gone wild? Or, have you realized you just don’t give a shit and deleted all your dating apps? There’s no bad answer here. It’s a weird time to […]
Post-COVID Dating: The People You Still Need To Avoid
There’s going to come a time when life gets back to normal, and normal dating will resume. Other than still practicing some social distancing and washing your hands every five seconds, chances are, you’ll still be the same person you were before the pandemic, and so will the people you’ll be dating. Except you might […]
Vulnerability Is The New Black
Did you see Brené Brown’s interview on CBS 60 Minutes a few weeks ago, where she sang the praises of vulnerability? It spoke to me. In fact, it moved me so much, I watched it again online because I didn’t want to miss a single piece of her wisdom. And it wasn’t just wisdom she […]
Keeping Love Alive In The Time Of Coronavirus
If there was ever a time to rethink how we love and live, it’s now. The coronavirus has changed life as we know it: how we live, function, do business, socialize, and date. But all is not bleak. Life will go on, and hopefully with more awareness and mindfulness. In the time of coronavirus, I […]
We Need To Have A Talk About Having “The Talk”
Picture this scenario: You’ve been in a relationship for a few months, and things are going well. There’s intimacy and possible signs of real commitment. There’s potential here, but you’re purposely keeping it light and letting things unfold. You see a future with this BF/GF, so you’re making sure not to pressure or get ahead […]
One Day You Will Thank The Ex Who Dumped You
Believe it or not, your anger will turn into gratitude. It might not be tomorrow, or next week. It might not be a month, a year, or even a few years, but in time, you will look back upon the ex you once reviled and the breakup that almost killed you, and say thanks. I […]
