Being a Gentleman Is Not Toxic Masculinity

Single people of a certain age will tell you dating has really changed over the years. Even in the 10 years since I was single, it’s become almost unrecognizable. Back then, there were no hard rules, shifting power dynamics, manosphere, or hatred for the opposite sex. There was feminism and equal rights, but for the […]

Trump Is Making My Job Harder as a Dating Coach

Reading NYT columnist Thomas Friedman’s recent Op-Ed piece “How We’ve Lost Our Moorings as a Society,” got me thinking about how the dating world is also losing its moorings. In his article, Friedman talks about the loss of social, normative, and political guardrails, and how the things that once held us together–morals, values, civility, and […]

It’s OK To Admit You Hate Being Single

It’s OK to hate being single and I’m giving you a safe space to say it. You’ve got permission to admit you’re tired of being alone, fed up with solitude, and sick of going solo. If you’re done being single, go ahead and say it. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a lot to love about […]

1 Tip To Survive & Thrive Being Single After 50

Single people over 50, I’m not here to tell you that in order to survive and thrive being single, you must love yourself first, learn to be alone, practice gratitude, or any of the usual dating platitudes you’ve heard a million times (even though they’re all true and good advice). You’re of a certain age […]

Cuffing Season is Officially Open

The holidays can be a time of great joy and celebration, but if you’re single, all that joy and celebration can make you feel, well, very single. Back in my single days, I spent many a holiday on my own (i.e. not in a relationship). I wasn’t totally alone though. Thankfully, I had friends that […]

Stop Waiting For People To Love You

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the things we do for love. The knots we twist ourselves into, the hoops we jump through. In the pursuit of love (affection, acceptance, and approval too), we compromise our standards and abandon our identity. We work too hard, wait too long, and people-please the hell out of […]

Let The One That Got Away Get Away

We’ve all had that one that got away. It’s the boyfriend you dumped, the girlfriend that didn’t last, the relationship that didn’t work out, the marriage that didn’t make it. The one that got away may either be long gone, or still hanging around– if just in your mind. They have you reliving old memories, […]

Remember Flirting?

Remember flirting? You know, that thing you did when you were interested in or attracted to someone? You walked up to them, said hi, made small talk, shared a laugh, felt a vibe? Yeah, those days are gone. COVID might’ve been the last nail in the flirting coffin. It might’ve officially killed it off, but […]

Put Yourself On Your Own Damn Pedestal

There was a time in my life when love was so elusive, when committed relationships felt so unobtainable, and marriage so out of reach, it had me convinced I wasn’t good enough, and that everyone was too good for me. I was in my late 40s, still single, and on a horrible losing streak. Nonstarters […]

10 Life & Love Lessons from Me and Navy SEAL Admiral McRaven

I bet you didn’t know (and I’m sure he doesn’t know either) but Navy SEAL Admiral William H. McRaven is an accidental dating and relationship expert. When he offered his 10 life lessons in a commencement speech to the University of Texas at Austin, he wasn’t exactly talking about LOVE, but he could’ve been. In urging […]