You’re Not Truly Compatible Unless You Have This

Before I got married for the first time at 51, I thought I knew what true compatibility was: connecting on a mind, body, and soul level. If we connected on enough levels, we were compatible. Compatibility meant we had potential, possibility, maybe even a real shot at love. Everyone has their own definition of compatibility, […]

Can You Find The Love In Being Single?

  Before I got married, I had an on-again/off-again affair with being single. When we were on and things were good, I loved it; but when we were off, I hated it. There’s a lot to love about being single: you’ve got freedom and independence; you can come and go as you please; and you can do what […]

My Life As A New Wife: The Year In Review

Celebrating my first wedding anniversary made me feel kind of like Miss America coming to the end of her reign: triumphant, honored, and just a little bit sad to give back the tiara and say goodbye to my title of newlywed. But I must, because now at end of Year One, I am officially a […]

A Career Dater Finally Quits Her Job

Other than a few squabbles about bulk buying at Costco, the transition to married life has been pretty smooth. It’s new, but not weird. It’s an adjustment, but not a tough one. It’s a life change, but one that I welcomed, and probably needed. After living alone and being on my own for so long, […]

I Like Big Rebuttals And I Cannot Lie

And now a few words from Robby Scharf, my late blooming husband: Ah, my wife Treva. I love her like I’ve never loved anyone before. As beautiful as she is talented, she possesses a wonderful ability to convey in words what many of us think, but may not express. Her last blog post, “Women Are From Venus, […]

Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Costco

It was either me move into his man cave/bachelor pad in the heart of gritty, urban downtown L.A., or him move into my charming, old French Normandy apartment on the Westside. Downtown L.A. is cool and groovy if you’re a guy, but not if you’re a princess from Beverly Hills. We had just gotten married […]

My Vows: A Dream Writing Assignment

Finally getting the chance to write my marriage vows was more than just this bride’s dream come true. It was this freelance writer’s finest hour. The dream assignment that had previously been out of reach for so many years, was now mine. I had waited patiently and worked tirelessly, but I finally got the job. […]

One Last Blast Before Take Off

When you’ve been single as long as I have, every night is a sort of a bachelorette party. With no husband, no kids, not even a pet, I’ve been able to come and go as I please. I can get wild, go crazy, live it up, party hard, stay out late or not come home […]

Same Footsteps, Different Paths

She was in her early 20s, just off the boat from Scotland; he was in his early 30s, newly transplanted from Brooklyn when they met and married in the 50’s. Robby and I will be well into our 50s when we walk down the aisle for the first time. They had a half a handful of […]

Eaton-Cox And The Great Hyphenate Debate

To hyphenate or not to hyphenate. That is the question. If you’re Anna Wang and you’re marrying Brad Holder; or if you’re Katrina Busch and you’re marrying Matthew Hacker; or if you’re Kelly Long and you’re marrying Eric Wiwi, maybe hyphenating isn’t such a great idea. Allow me to repeat: Wang-Holder, Busch-Wacker, Long-Wiwi. Now, if your name is Treva […]