Dating TMI: Let It Rip Or Keep It Zipped?

“We had magic, it was immediate bliss. Being with him was a perfect world. We would connect on such a deep level, and he made me feel beautiful. It felt loving and honest. We could talk for hours about anything. But after he’d go home, things would change. He’d call the next day, and be […]
Surviving Breakup Hell

Your world is shattered, your guts are wrenched, your soul is crushed, your ego blown, and your heart is broken into a million pieces. Welcome to Breakup Hell, the absolute worst place on earth. Before I got married for the first time at 50, I must’ve visited Breakup Hell a thousand times, and every time […]
How to Find Love Later in Life with Treva Brandon Scharf

Treva Brandon Scharf is a writer, dating coach, and fitness professional. With over 35 years in the fitness industry, and 50 years in the singles world, Treva helps people achieve peak performance in both life and love.
INTIMATE CONVERSATIONS with Allana Pratt: Treva Brandon Scharf, Done Being Single

Wow, this woman GETS the process and has LIVED the process of what it takes to being DONE being single! She understands what we put into our inner growth is what we get out of the relationship we manifest. She gets that holding on with a death grip is the surest way to push love […]
Singles Sex: When To Have It, When Not To Have It

“I’m dating, when should I have sex?” On the first date? Third date? After a month? As soon as you lose 10 pounds? When to have sex depends on what you want, where you’re at, and most importantly, what your needs and goals are. “I WANT THIS RELATIONSHIP TO LAST” If you want a […]
You Can’t Hurry Love: Interview with the Late Blooming Bride (and a groom, too!)

Why does it take so long for some of us to find The One? They say “timing is everything” but is that always the case? Or do some of us need to work through our “issues” before love will come our way? For Treva Brandon Scharf, getting married at age 50 revamped not only her […]
Is Donald Trump F-ing With Your Love Life?

It’s been over a year since the 2016 presidential campaign, nine months since the election, and six months since the inauguration, and I’ve just gotta know: Is Trump cramping your dating style? Are you a Republican finding it harder to hook up? Are you a Democrat getting laid left and right? Are you red-hot in […]
The 3 Dirtiest Words In Dating

Benching. Breadcrumbing. Ghosting. You may not have heard these words before, but if you’re single and dating in 2017, chances are, you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve been a victim of one of these dirty dating practices, you have my sympathies. If you’ve ever knowingly committed one of these offenses, you’re on my […]
“The Trump Effect” And How It’s Affecting Me

This blog post isn’t about Donald Trump the candidate. It’s not about his platform or policies, or his vulgar comments caught on tape last week. In fact, this post isn’t about politics at all. It’s about Donald Trump the bully, and the effect his bullying is having on me. “The Trump Effect,” isn’t something I […]
Can You Find The Love In Being Single?

Before I got married, I had an on-again/off-again affair with being single. When we were on and things were good, I loved it; but when we were off, I hated it. There’s a lot to love about being single: you’ve got freedom and independence; you can come and go as you please; and you can do what […]