“The Trump Effect” And How It’s Affecting Me

2016-06-25-13-30-31This blog post isn’t about Donald Trump the candidate. It’s not about his platform or policies, or his vulgar comments caught on tape last week. In fact, this post isn’t about politics at all. It’s about Donald Trump the bully, and the effect his bullying is having on me.

“The Trump Effect,” isn’t something I made up. It’s a real term coined by the nonprofit Southern Poverty Law Center, an organization that tracks hate groups.

In their new study, “The Trump Effect: The Impact of the Presidential Campaign on our Nation’s Schools,” the SPLC shows that the election is inflaming racial and ethnic tensions, and producing alarming levels of fear and anxiety among children of color.

Whether it’s schoolchildren taunting “Build that wall!” or “Go back to Mexico!” Trump’s xenophobic rhetoric on the campaign trail is being played out in ugly playground spats and classroom exchanges all across America.

I’m not a kid, but I feel their pain.

I’ve been the victim of bullying too—not in a schoolyard when I was a kid—but as an adult, not so long ago. I was harassed, cyber-bullied, and threatened by two ex-friends of mine, both grown women with children of their own. I spoke about this at length in my post “When Your BFF Becomes A POS.” It was a horrible time of my life, and it feels like I’m reliving it all over again thanks to Donald Trump.

Just last week, an irate Trump supporter on Facebook wished me some horrific things–including rape– in a comment thread. Now, I’ve gotten into some political jousting on social media before, but suggesting physical harm because I disagree with you is taking it to a whole other disturbing level.

Trump’s habit of demonizing people because of their race, religion, gender, and appearance, is hitting a very sensitive spot for me. Whenever he humiliates and shames, it’s like he’s doing it to me personally. Whenever he hurls an insult or demeans someone, my heart hurts a little.

Muslims, Mexicans, immigrants, women, minorities, POWs, and the disabled, I feel their pain too.

Trump’s mean-spirited tweets and inflammatory language are triggering a trauma in me I thought was healed, but unfortunately, the wound is still open and the pain is very real.

Worst of all, Trump is inciting a mindset in his supporters that feels like a collective threat to my soul. They remind me of an angry mob with pitchforks and torches, but instead of marauding through towns, they hide behind computers destroying you with their words.

I’m not the only one affected by the Trump Effect. There’s scores of people–young and old– who’ve been threatened and harassed by haters, internet trolls, and online bullies.

Female Reporters

When Donald Trump suggested that Fox News moderator Megyn Kelly might have been on her period because she was tough on him during a debate, his supporters jumped all over her with an avalanche of online hatred. They called her every name in the book including “bitch, slut, whore,” amongst other things.

Olivia Nuzzi, a reporter with the Daily Beast, knows a thing or two about online bullying too. After she posted a story on Marla Maples on Facebook, Mike Krawitz, a Trump supporter and Republican candidate for the West Deptford New Jersey, township committee, wrote this on her page: “Fuck. You. Olivia, I. Hope. Somebody. Rapes. You. Today.”

Jewish Journalists

When Observer writer Dana Schwartz complained about Donald Trump’s tweeted image of Hillary Clinton in front of raining money with a six-sided star, declaring she’s the “Most Corrupt Candidate Ever!” she had no idea the shit storm of anti-Semitic abuse she would get. His supporters attacked her with hundreds of tweets that ranged from mocking her nose, to applauding the Holocaust.

Jewish political reporters who cover Trump, say they are regularly subject to anti-Semitic harassment by Trump fans online.

Just ask journalist Julia Ioffe. After she published a profile of Donald Trump’s wife Melania earlier this year, she was inundated with angry, anti-Jewish tweets, emails, and even death threats.

People of Color

When Fox News reported that President Obama’s daughter Malia had elected to attend Harvard University after taking a year off, it didn’t go unnoticed by their readers. The comments were so racist, Fox News had to shut down the comments section on their website. Here’s an example:

“Probably staying out for a year so she can help her parents carry out the furniture and dinnerware when they leave the White House.”

And that was one of the nicer things.

After Donald Trump won the Nevada Republican primary, Huffington Post civil rights reporter Julia Craven tweeted her concerns about the possibility of a Trump presidency:


In response, Craven was unexpectedly hit by a full wrath of hate like this:


So How Do You Deal With Bullies?

In my case, because the harassment was so extreme, I had to hire a lawyer. The situation was eventually resolved, and the truth became clear: bullies are really just insecure cowards.

As for the Facebook bully from last week, he ended up apologizing to me after being reported by friends and others who were also offended by his comments.

The bullying may be over for me, but I worry about the rest of our country. I want to believe the “Trump Effect” is just a passing fad; I want to believe that civility and kindness aren’t things of the past, and that bad behavior is not the new normal.

Regardless of what happens on November 8th, we must make sure that bullying never wins.


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18 replies


    • Treva Brandon Scharf
      Treva Brandon Scharf says:

      Yeah, me too, but it taught me a valuable lesson about forgiveness. When people do hurtful things, it’s because they’re hurting. They’re in pain, and the sooner you can recognize this, the sooner you can feel sorry for them instead of feeling anger toward them.

  1. adeladurkee
    adeladurkee says:

    Great post. For me, no surprises from Trump. I saw him as despicable during the primaries.
    The legions of people and organizations that are speaking out against him and his tactics speak volumes. Here’s a link to one of my favorites. Calling Trump a despot is so spot on. http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865664336/In-our-opinion-Donald-Trump-should-resign-his-candidacy.html?pg=all

    I hope that all 50 states resoundingly choose someone other than Trump. That would send the message that despots have no place in America.

    P.S. I’ve been spending my time on the Platforms instead. There’s more than a presidential election at stake.

  2. Wendy
    Wendy says:

    Bravo, Treva!
    Not one to bury my head in the sand regarding the chaos of the current political landscape in the US, I have risked my personal peace and well being by sticking it out as well. And what I have found, is the surprising amount of personal FB “friends” who are either at odds with my own way of thinking, or disgusted with both candidates and refuse to vote. Efforts to provide the multitude of reasons that exist FOR voting have fallen on deaf ears, and chats do tend to escalate to uncomfortable levels. Rampant anger is spewing from all sides, my own included.
    Donald Trump’s nasty, bullying behavior has basically opened up a Pandora’s Box to those people who are attracted to his showmanship style to feel it’s perfectly OK to attack, threaten, and possibly commit worse acts against anyone who has the audacity to disagree with them. I hold him responsible for making ugly intolerance such an uncomfortable new norm. Look what’s happened in such a short time to integrity, decorum, and simple politeness and kindness!
    Even though I think there’s no way this ignorant, horrid dictator will actually be put in the position of turning the US into a third world country, it’s going to take a long time and much effort for the country to heal itself from everything he has brought to the surface. Rather than bullying us back to the racism and sexism of the last century, Trump and his deplorables should go way way back to the origins and basic truths our founders knew to be self evident….and their vision of how great the United States of America was really meant to be.

  3. Caren O
    Caren O says:

    Thank you, Treva, for putting your thoughts and feelings out here on the web. I’ve found all the anger, harrassment, and threatened violence very disturbing too. I pray HRC survives this insanity and life in America settles down a bit eventually. I realize Baby Boomer Ozzie and Harriet years will never return, but surely some peace should be achievable given time and distance.

  4. Melanie Nelson
    Melanie Nelson says:

    I love your voice, it is so spot on. Thank you for so intelligently connecting these bullying dots which Mr. Trump has laid.

  5. Mark Fletcher
    Mark Fletcher says:

    Great post Treva. You’re a very well-adjusted person. On a side note, I found that there’s no such thing as sweet revenge either. Interestingly, most of my bullies have actually died, and I don’t feel wonderful about that. It’s just a fact that I ponder on occasion, especially when I still feel tinges of anger or depression start to bubble up caused by those situations from the past. Although I haven’t been diagnosed with PTSD, it’s obvious to me that it is. Funny how telling myself those people are no longer with us doesn’t actually make me feel better – or safer. Neither have apologies. I try to apply them as bandages, but they don’t stick. The takeaway is that it taught me how to treat people, because that negative shit doesn’t go away.

  6. Elise
    Elise says:

    Donald Trump has managed to degrade the position he holds as the Republican nominee. He has offended so many people in various ways. As a woman- his comments about sexual assault are especially hurtful. And politics aside, he is not someone I’d want to be friends with. Lol! The one beacon of light, for me, has been seeing Michele Obama take a stand fir women and say enough is enough! She has a political agenda but, I felt, her speech was from the heart. I needed to hear a strong woman say -women deserve better. Indeed we do – and we have to hold men accountable for such bullying behavior. It is not acceptable and we as woman shouldn’t accept it regardless of who the man is or how much power he has.


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