Single People, Are You Misbehaving in the Dating World?
As a dating coach, I often wonder what happened to civility in dating. Where did it go? How did we lose it? When did people forget to be kind to each other? What killed dating etiquette, and who’s to blame for its sorry state? Based on my observations, it’s a combination of dating apps, eroding […]
Being a Gentleman Is Not Toxic Masculinity
Single people of a certain age will tell you dating has really changed over the years. Even in the 10 years since I was single, it’s become almost unrecognizable. Back then, there were no hard rules, shifting power dynamics, manosphere, or hatred for the opposite sex. There was feminism and equal rights, but for the […]
Trump Is Making My Job Harder as a Dating Coach
Reading NYT columnist Thomas Friedman’s recent Op-Ed piece “How We’ve Lost Our Moorings as a Society,” got me thinking about how the dating world is also losing its moorings. In his article, Friedman talks about the loss of social, normative, and political guardrails, and how the things that once held us together–morals, values, civility, and […]
Have You Ever Thought the Problem Might Be You?
Do you know people who constantly complain about dating, how hard it is, and how it’s always someone else’s fault when things don’t work out? They blame the opposite sex, the patriarchy, toxic masculinity, feminism, narcissistic exes, dating apps, etc., adopt a victim mentality and never own their part? Do you listen and nod? Do […]
It’s OK To Admit You Hate Being Single
It’s OK to hate being single and I’m giving you a safe space to say it. You’ve got permission to admit you’re tired of being alone, fed up with solitude, and sick of going solo. If you’re done being single, go ahead and say it. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a lot to love about […]
1 Tip To Survive & Thrive Being Single After 50
Single people over 50, I’m not here to tell you that in order to survive and thrive being single, you must love yourself first, learn to be alone, practice gratitude, or any of the usual dating platitudes you’ve heard a million times (even though they’re all true and good advice). You’re of a certain age […]
Cuffing Season is Officially Open
The holidays can be a time of great joy and celebration, but if you’re single, all that joy and celebration can make you feel, well, very single. Back in my single days, I spent many a holiday on my own (i.e. not in a relationship). I wasn’t totally alone though. Thankfully, I had friends that […]
Dating Advice is Life Advice
I just published my first book, titled “Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love.” When I first submitted my manuscript to my publisher, they asked which category I thought it belonged in. The title says “single,” “late bloomer,” and “love,” so one could surmise it’s a relationship book for people in midlife. It […]
Stop Waiting For People To Love You
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the things we do for love. The knots we twist ourselves into, the hoops we jump through. In the pursuit of love (affection, acceptance, and approval too), we compromise our standards and abandon our identity. We work too hard, wait too long, and people-please the hell out of […]
Let The One That Got Away Get Away
We’ve all had that one that got away. It’s the boyfriend you dumped, the girlfriend that didn’t last, the relationship that didn’t work out, the marriage that didn’t make it. The one that got away may either be long gone, or still hanging around– if just in your mind. They have you reliving old memories, […]
